I have been away for about 8 years now. When I say away, I mean half a world away. Yes, I miss my family back home but where is home, really?
I am not the type to adapt quickly. I’ve always had a hard time adjusting when moving, switching jobs, transitioning work hours and just adjusting to change in general. I could not even believe that I have survived moving from the Philippines to where I am now, in Canada. Yes, I terribly miss the pampered life living with my parents. Very little chores and I don’t really have to be an adult. Don’t judge me – it is very typical in the Philippines to live under your parents roof when you’re single, and sometimes even if you are already married. It is in our culture that a family sticks together until whenever, and sometimes, forever.
So when I decided to move out and explore the life not only outside of my parents’ house but outside the country, it was a huge sacrifice. Change was then an ongoing thing and everything seems to be new. I flew to Canada with eight other people starting a new life. All nine of us did not know what to expect when we get to the plane because from the plane, there is now turning back. Yes, you have a choice to go back of course but man, what a waste of time and money!
I started working and living in a very small town, away from everything. At first I thought, the town is so small and so secluded I won’t survive, but as days go by, it seemed pretty good. I realized that I do not need a lot. Just the grocery store, bank, clinic, hospital, pharmacy, recreation center and a church.
The feeling that you miss your family is still there but I devoted my time to working and focusing on saving up. Still sad at times, but since it is the century of communication and technology, I talk to family – a lot. I made friends and a few foes (just being honest). Not everyone will be nice to you and that’s a fact wherever you are in the world. The Canadians are generally polite and very accommodating. I love how respectful they are. Everytime I see someone on the streets, say a complete stranger for example, will say “hi, how are you?” and would even smile and wave at you. Just a good vibe altogether.
When I am finally fully adjusted, things came together pretty well. The adjustment wasn’t too bad at all and the change was constant yet I am able to go with it. I moved about four times and looking back, if I had to do it before, I would be extremely anxious and will have anxiety attack permanently. But then slowly I started feeling fine, happy and content. Here in Canada is where I met the love of my life and my forever partner. We got married, purchased our home, we did everything together. I guess this is what God keeps telling us that His plans are better than ours and He was right.
Jeremiah 29:11 New International Version
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Best decision I made in my life is to explore and go beyond my comfort zone. It was definitely hard but it was all worth it. Yes, I still miss my family in the Philippines but we talk regularly and see each other on Skype so it’s all good. I held on to God on my toughest of days and He pulled me through. My friends are a big part of my good and happy life here and of course, my husband, who stands by me and with me in everything
I do we do.
I guess what I am trying to say is, don’t be afraid to discover new things. Now that I have come a long way from being a pampered baby to being the adult that I am, I can say that I have accomplished a lot. I may not be rich but I am definitely wealthy in terms of experiences and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Now, home is not a place for me. It is where I find God, the people who truly appreciate me and the happiness within.