Everyday is a test. People forget that what we do and say are being watched and being judged. It is a proven fact that we judge people around us, and they do the same. Only God can judge us, yet, admittedly, we do judge others too. How many times have you been on a subway and made a side comment in your head about someone’s clothes, shoes, the way they yell at their kids and so on. How many times have we told others “I’m not helping you because the last time I needed help, you never reached out.” We never stopped for a second thinking that, what if this person is going through something that’s why he/she is too busy and is ignoring me. He/she is dealing with his/her own life. Sometimes we need to stop and think: what’s going on in their heads?
One day I was in a grocery store with a lady walking hurriedly on the same isle as I am and she passed this younger lady. The younger lady’s shoulder brushed through the rushing lady and she said “excuse you!” The lady in a hurry did not say anything and went on with her business. In my head, between the pasta boxes and spices I’m thinking what if the lady needs to be somewhere else right away and she didn’t mean to bump into her. What if it was an innocent act because her brother / father / kid is in the hospital and they had an emergency? What if she really needs to go to the washroom badly and she couldn’t hold it anymore? But if I were to stop and leave it the way I saw it, I’d think to myself that she is just plain rude. Not only did I judge her, I automatically assumed that the younger lady was right. I could’ve looked at it the other way around and having the younger lady all at fault for not making room for the other lady to pass through and for being rude saying “excuse you” to the lady in a hurry. I guess it all depends on how to look at certain things which makes me wonder: can people be more understanding or are we just plain arrogant and too quick to judge?
Jeremiah 29:11New International Version (NIV)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Above is my favourite bible verse and I always think that whatever happens to me on a daily basis is something that God has planned. See, writing for me is a far more comfortable way of expressing myself than speaking. For some people, they think that I am a talker, but as expressively as I am in speaking, I think I am better off writing. Writing is my way of calming down and finding peace. Writing in general makes me think and understand. But what if other people aren’t much of both a speaker or a writer? Does that mean that no one would understand that person? If we only try to understand the people around us even if they don’t speak and explain, I think in general things will run smoothly. I guess since I live in a real world, that expectation is far too much to achieve but if we practice doing that everyday, a lot will change. It wouldn’t hurt being more open-minded and it will clear your heart from anger and stress.
I spoke to my close friend the other day, one who inspire me to be a woman of God. We talked about how God works into this very intricate weave in her life. She said it was very hard to understand why things are happening to her life but through it all she remained faithful and towards the end she saw a life filled with love and contentment. She reminded me that the not-so-good-things that are happening to you are just tests. It is very important that during our tough times, we build our character. It is very important to trust in God’s plans. His plans to prosper us and NOT to harm us.
In most cases, it’s better to stay calm, do you and keep doing what’s right because at the end of the day, people’s opinion doesn’t always count, especially if that opinion doesn’t help make things better.
We often find it very easy to blame other people or even God when we are tested. As hard as it is, I have realized that over time, the blame game does not and will never ever work. I see problems as opportunities. I see them as a way for me to improve. I see them as a mold that hones my character to be a better person. Yes it’s true, we can’t please everyone. But does it matter what people say? Sometimes. But you don’t get to explain your side to everyone and that doesn’t mean that you are in the wrong and other people who talk ill about you are always right. In most cases, it’s better to stay calm, do you and keep doing what’s right because at the end of the day, people’s opinion doesn’t always count, especially if that opinion doesn’t help make things better.
It is up to you to come clean, make amends and improve.
Character building goes hand in hand with life long tests. It is you who know what you did in the past. It is up to you to come clean, make amends and improve. It is you who should know how to respond to trials without compromising your beliefs and do what is right. Everyday is a present and everyday we are constantly tested, thus, giving us opportunity to redeem ourselves from the days prior. During the toughest times and your lowest of low, still do good not because you want to impress the people around you and not because of all the attention. Be good because that’s the right thing to do before God’s eyes.